You know how to walk the talk. But today let’s talk about how to talk the talk. No, we’re not obsessing over idioms, in fact, we’re being quite literal this time. In an age where too many proclaim that ‘conversation is sexy’, intellectualism is an attractive asset and what not, often we find ourselves wondering if good conversation really exists only in a parallel universe.
Sparks may or may not fly at the first glance, but there is something definitely that can happen when two individuals go beyond evaluating each other on their face value. The most important thing about conversations, real-time or virtual, is the amount of effort and time that goes in it — and we know in an age where everything comes at a cost, time and effort have become priceless, and hence, the most precious.
The next hurdle is — making conversation, and therein lies the biggest problem. You don’t make conversation alone. It is a two-way street. While you may be a great speaker, a good conversation can turn you into a good listener too, and hence make you more receptive as a person, and more so when you listen to someone who is appealing to you.
Don’t worry, we won’t leave you without a simple how-to to a great conversation. Here’s a little something to get you up and running:
- You may want to speak a lot or too little — anxiety may push you either way, but keep a slightly conscious track on that — moderation is key.
- Being yourself is important. Be vocal about your likes and dislikes. It is good to keep your cards on the table beforehand.
- Don’t hold back — laugh when something’s funny, widen your eyes when it’s amusing and most importantly, be an honest reciprocator of whatever you feel — like you would in any normal conversation.
- Nervousness is normal — and probably the person sitting across from you is feeling the same. Start steadily, and let the ideas build upon each other.
Lastly, we know no one is perfect. You may be confident or you may be slightly hesitant. Either way, a good conversation is what keeps you engaged eventually. Time will go by and everything else will fade. It’s only that little nudge that pushed you to open up, that will trigger a lifetime of unforgettable memories.
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