Before you read on and earn a PhD in the field of blessed ignorance, tell me if you’ve ever been in a situation where you wanted to ignore someone you feel oodles of fondness for? It can get quite complicated and painful, right?
First of all, we all have reasons to ignore that someone. It could be due to their behavior, a rough argument or mere rejection. And we don’t always need a reason, do we? Lack of attention can trigger it too; mostly that’s what happens in my case by the way.
If yes, then I feel you bro. It’s one of the most annoying feelings in the world. We have that person added on our social media and we need to ignore them, but sadly, Snapchat keeps us updated about their fun night with the squad, Instagram tells us about their late night fancy dinner date and WhatsApp keeps showing their status. And it’s not like you can shut them all. So, what are we supposed to do? We so want their attention, but due to our recent grudge, we can’t even text because well, ego and that sense of self-respect.
And while we keep overthinking, this social media keeps reminding us of them. We cannot delete them either, because it’ll be “too wanna be” and child-like. Plus, we always want the best of both worlds –get all updates and, at the same time, stay at peace.
Here are some tips to cast that spell of ignorance right.
Rule Number 1: Never Sound Needy
I know you love them and as they say, when it’s love nothing else should matter. You must explain things and even go an extra mile to fix things up, but if the person just doesn’t understand then may be it’s time to back off a little and stand your ground. No body should be taking you for granted, ever. Stick to this and don’t get carried away. No more running after them. Acceptance is key here.
Rule Number 2: Play it Cool, Online
If you really wish to ignore them on the Internet, there’re quick changes you can make in the settings. Starting with WhatsApp, put the chat in Archives (no opening it). For Facebook, un-follow them so their updates don’t appear on your timeline. On Snapchat just don’t click on their story or even better, remove them for a while, no one gets any notification anyway. This way you’ll have them added but at the same time, there won’t be much access to their updates, and trust me, this will only make your life easier.
Rule Number 3: Stay busy. Burn them, boy.
The best way to not think about someone is by keeping yourself busy. Go out with friends, work on yourself, read books, eat good things and make them jealous. Trust me, if they really care about you, they’ll be burning up inside when they see you have fun with other people (especially common friends) and not them. Slow clap to our double standards.
Rule Number 4: Take it Slow
Did he/she just text you? Don’t get excited. Wait a while, may be for few hours or even a day? Just don’t revert within a second. Show them you have other things on your mind too. At least we can pretend we have priorities. And don’t try to make conversation in the very first place. Act formal, no “What’s up?” but a “How are you?” Start using their name to make it sound more legit (Hi Rajnikanth!). And a tiny disclaimer, increase the usage of words like hmmm, no idea, ya and ok. Short, dry replies act like a bomb.
Rule Number 5: Stay Focused, Stay Strong
Perhaps everything about them is perfect but I am sure there would be something you never really appreciated about them. May be how they make those weird noises while eating or that weird obsession with poop jokes. Try to think about why you fought or whatever led you to behave in this manner. This will only help you to keep your will strong to ignore the lad.
Follow these tips for a few days and trust me they will come back running to you. And when that happens, don’t shower all your love at once. Have a stiff, casual embrace and they’ll surely be yours forever because then they won’t take you for granted. There’ll be that fear of losing you. And if even after a few days they don’t realise your absence, then I am sure your existence didn’t matter much to them anyway. Either way, let’s move on!
About the author: Urvashi Katyal, a master Snapchatter and vociferous deal-maker, is head of offline operations at MYOLO. A lover of Ray Bans, she hates parallel parking and too much butter in her chicken. (The opinions expressed in this article are personal opinions of the author).
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