The Meeting Someone New For The First Time Series
Part I: How To Setup A Meeting
It’s finally time both of you think you should meet. Sometimes this can happen within 5-minutes of unstrangering with someone on the app, and can sometimes take weeks before you bump into each other at an event.
Either way, this is what you’ve been waiting for, isn’t it? It’s much more comfortable meeting someone with similar interests, you would have a lot to talk about.
But what if you’re the one who wants to meet and they are completely oblivious about it? What should you do then? How would you know whether they actually care about the meet or if they are just passing time on social media?
Relax, it’s quite simple actually.
First, don’t beat around the bush. A common thing to remember when setting up the first meeting is ‘KISS’. Now I know what you guys are thinking, so get whatever popped into your head OUT. This isn’t a date, it’s about meeting someone new.
Keep It Short and Simple (KISS). Not so dirty now is it? Trying to stumble into the conversation just makes you sound awkward, and you do NOT want that. Be polite and precise when asking them to meet.
Don’t rush into it. Take your time, get to know the person more and then pick a suitable moment for asking them. You don’t want to end up saying something like “Hi! How you doing today? I had fun talking to you yesterday. How bout we meet later?” It’s just too abrupt.
Give them their space. Always remember that you are asking them a question and you can’t feel offended by their answer. If they say they need time or they are not ready yet, be confident in saying that’s ok and respect their decision.
Don’t feel shy or embarrassed because they can be just as nervous as you are. If you find that you have a good rapport with your friend, it should be much easier for you to ask them for a face to face meet. It will also increase the chances of them saying yes. This is why I stress on the “take your time” part. It’s for your own good.
Other than these tips, there’s really nothing to it. Be confident and be yourself. Rather than waiting around spending so much time planning, just go for it!
Of course, there is the matter of where the meeting should ideally take place… but that’s for another day! Until then, stay chill and be yourself! Or perhaps, get on MYOLO.